A kiss won't turn a frog into a prince. Likewise, marriage cannot and will not change a man.
Often times, women marry men who are not God's choice for them, in hopes that marriage will change their husbands. Honey, that won’t work…ain’t gonna happen! It’s hard enough to change yourselves.
That man is not your project, he is a person.
Truth is, you can’t change anyone, only God can. The best solution is to live the “life of faith” in front of him.
Revelations 3 reminds us that God stands at the door of every person's heart and knocks, never forcing anyone to do something that he or she is not willing to do. So, if the man refuses to make a change for the better, all the nagging, performing and deceptive tactics in the world won’t force him to do so.
Men are not projects that you can work on or clay that you can shape into your version of the perfect specimen. They are people—sinners saved by grace—just as you are. It's only through their relationship with Christ wherein changes for good are developed and produced over time—just as with you.
Just in case manipulation comes to mind, don’t try that either. Trying to make someone do something they don’t want to do usually ends up in a big fat mess. Any attempts to force others toward changes they are not ready to make may yield temporary results, but fuels resentment.
In the event that you have married that person, love him tenderly and pray fervently asking God shape and mold both of you into vessels of His choosing.
In the event that you are dating that person, notice consistent sinful behavior or something that you know are against God's will and habits you can't deal with. Pray for him, but move on. Physical attraction can never make up for a broken spirit.
Remember this, that man is a person, he's not a project!
Challenge:
Single Women
- Set standards based on biblical principles
- Refuse to live outside of those boundaries
Married Women
- Pray for your husband
- Seek his best interest
- Respect, encourage and support his efforts to walk in God’s will
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